Once upon a time, people who grew old (or older) together, even if unhappy in their marriage, did not consider divorce an option. Today’s world is a much different place. People who once thought of themselves as old at sixty are now active physically, socially, and sexually. Many are working longer, or even starting new careers. And, because the world and its citizens are indeed “a changing”; we are witnessing a dramatic increase in divorces among the 60+ set.

Graduating from high school into college came with the added benefit of having exam time increased from two hours to three hours. This increment of time by 50% brought with it a hopeful sense of having sufficient time to complete all questions satisfactorily. It didn’t take long before it became apparent that even three hours was inadequate. There were questions I would have been able to successfully attempt with more time as well as those I would not manage even if I had unlimited time. Is time-bound mediation a bit like examinations for mediators?

As if divorce is not in itself difficult, couples who sadly have to end their relationship this way also deal with an even worse situation – ensuring the welfare and wellbeing of their children.

Problem-solving and decision-making. Ask anyone in the workplace if these activities are part of their day and they answer 'Yes!' But how many of us have had training in problem-solving?We know it's a critical element of our work, but do we know how to do it effectively?

If you are an experienced mediator who has mediated many disputes to a successful agreement, then you have probably established a reputation and feel confident in your mediation skills. But when was the last time you really challenged yourself, challenged your way of doing things, or thought strategically with other experienced mediators about how you can continue to build your practice and revitalize yourself?

As a family mediator specializing in divorce, I have had many clients who contact me for help with the decision to divorce or separate; either because they have had negative experiences or assumptions about couple’s counselors, or because they are uncertain about the decision yet also want to explore what divorce would look like.